I am a worrywart and I was never good with dealing with separation anxiety. That happened when my maternity leave ended and I had to leave Junior to go back to work and recently when we had to get Junior ready for school.
Separation anxiety has gotten more apparent for me now that I am a parent and I never fail to feel sad on days where Junior clings onto me and refuses to let me go to work. I never realised how common this feeling was until I had a conversation with some mummies some time back. Everyone has their own experiences and ways of coping with it.
So here are 3 ways of how I cope with my separation anxiety:
Talk about it
The best way for me is to verbalize my feelings and worries. And almost all the time I feel much better just speaking about it and rationalizing it. Whether I’m talking to the mister or some close friends, just having some comfort goes a long way. Being an extrovert, I never liked bottling my feelings up because it’s good to have someone who could empathize with me.
It isn’t always easy to think positive thoughts, but by reframing my thoughts to something positive out of the situation is half the battle won. Just when everything seems bleak, there is always something good that can come out of it and definitely something positive. I believe it is really how we see the situation as there is always 2 sides to a coin. This for me is never easy, but I try.
This is a big one for me. Whenever I can no longer feel positive or having nothing more I can say yet still feel the same way as I did, I pray. And having faith that God hears me and listens to my heart’s desire. For Him to take away all the uneasiness and replace that with immense peace. Having faith that things will be ok and they will eventually turn out fine.
In this journey of motherhood it is never easy and so much to learn. But I hope that with this post, I’ll be able to encourage mothers who may also be going through separation anxiety that there is truly a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. We just need to hang in there!